How to stop the comparison game
The saying “Comparison is the thief of joy” is facts sis. How many times have you caught yourself doom scrolling on instagram looking at everyone else’s highlight reel feeling sorry for yourself after comparing your life to theirs. When I say highlight reel that is exactly what I mean. What people portray on social media in their perfectly edited captions and styled content is purely what they WANT you to see. You don’t know the ins and outs of their lives or what the process underneath it all is to have what they currently have. Just know that you are good enough and continue to trust the process and timing of everything in your life.
Commit your way to the lord; trust in him and he will do this. -Psalm 37:5
We all have desires, aspirations, dreams and it is our job to commit it all to God. If we give it to him and trust him with it he will honor that. Even if what we want doesn’t exactly come to plan, it’s because God wants to give us something better in HIS timing. Here are some reminders that have helped me through if comparison gets the best of me:
Create a Gratitude list
Take some time out of your day to journal all of your blessings and all of your favorite qualities about yourself. When you look back on the list you’re going to be surprised at what you see. There are so many things great and small to be thankful for. You’re also gonna realize how awesome you are and why you are perfect just the way you are.
Cast your care
Journaling and turning to scriptures really helps me during times of comparison. I will read 1 Peter 5:7 and I will meditate on that. I then take out my journal and write down everything that I’m feeling. All of my anxieties, worries, doubts, and feelings. I try not to pass judgement or censor myself. I write down how I really feel in the moment. At the end I pray over everything that I wrote and give it to him. Afterwards I feel such a wave of relief because I don’t feel the pressure of carrying all that weight on me anymore.
Take a break
Take some time to do a social media detox. Unfollow pages that make you feel inadequate, set boundaries with what types of content you engage with. You could even just log off period and take a break off social media for a few weeks.
Pour into what you love
Do you have a hobby that you’d like to start or one that you’d like to pick up where you left off? Make the time and do it! When you are focused on your own hobbies and talents that leaves little time to sulk and compare because you are doing something that you enjoy and makes you feel good.
Speak life
What do you say about yourself? Is it kind or edifying? Change your language and speak positive affirmations over yourself. I love writing down affirmations and repeating them in the mirror.
This is a process and it takes time so give yourself grace if you slip back into the habit of comparison. Just know that you are doing your best every day and you are doing great. I hope this encourages you friend!
Do you have any trouble with comparison? Let me know in the comments.